【放生】SETTING LIVES FREE (English writing below)
男客人問我，什麼是行善？
基本上，能夠拔除別人的痛苦，給予別人快樂的，都是善。
這輩子，你可以好好的維持一段婚姻，一夫一妻到老，我認為，也是一善。
因為起碼你有努力地遵守結婚的承諾，你沒有違誓。
你風雨無阻地讓你的伴侶幸福，你展示了你的毅力。
你沒有盲目地順從你的伴侶。你會告訴她他，因果上什麼是對，什麼是錯。你有正見，可以幫助她他有更好的命運，讓這段婚姻不只是維繫在世俗的欲望中，還能提升彼此的心靈成長。
如此有溫度又有深度的感情，是難得的好姻緣。
但是，有的姻緣一開始就是錯，八字不匹配乃是業緣。
這時候，放生也是一種善。
允許她他去追求她他的幸福。
原諒她他，放他和自己一條生路。
因為硬糾纏下去，只會封鎖自己的一生。
試問你自己，難道在這段婚姻就一定是完美的伴侶嗎？
我不是在鼓勵離婚，只是痛苦的人不見得就能培育快樂的孩子。封鎖自己一生的你，也不見得就是孝順。
天無絕人之路，你千萬也不要絕自己的路。
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A male client asked me, what does it mean to do good deeds?
At the very basic level, any action that removes the suffering of others and gives happiness in return is a good deed.
In this lifetime, if you can manage your marriage well, and be faithful to your spouse till your death, I would think that is a virtuous deed too.
Because you diligently kept to your marriage vows. You did not go back on your word. You did not lie.
No matter what Life throws at you, you still gave happiness to your spouse. You demonstrated perseverance.
You do not blindly give in to your spouse’s whims and fancy. You would point out to your spouse the rights and wrongs according to the Law of Karma. Because you want your spouse to have a better Destiny.
Your actions of foresight create a marriage that not only fulfil the mortal desires of yours and your spouse, but also grows both your mental states of mind. A relationship that warms the heart and deepens the wisdom is such a rare love affinity.
However, some marriages are mistakes right from the start. It is a karmic debt to repay when both Bazi are mismatched for a life investment like marriage.
At this time, letting go is also a good deed.
Allow your spouse to pursue the happiness he/she covets, even if it means you are not in the equation.
Forgive your spouse so that you can give yourself another chance at Life.
Because to entangle each other further can only mean sealing off the rest of your lives.
It always take two hands to clap. Who dare say they are the perfect spouse in a marriage?
I am not encouraging divorce here. However, I have yet to seen a suffering parent who is able to raise happy children. Blocking future happiness from your life can’t be a filial act either.
Heaven will always leave a door open, so don’t you go shutting all the doors.
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